“The source of all unhappiness is judgement and comparison.” The first thought about that sentence is that is relates to comparing ourselves to other people. In my experience, I was my own worst enemy.
For me, the comparison and judgement related to the “checklists” or “manuals” that I had created for myself. I constantly compared myself to who, what and where I had decided I needed to be. My health, my career, my appearance, my role as a mother, wife, daughter, etc. all had separate “manuals”. Being the perfectionist that I am, of course, meant I could never live up to my own expectations. Then, of course, I had similar manuals for what my husband, kids, family members and friends were “supposed” to be like too. It was a miserable cycle of frustration and disappointment with the majority of it directed at myself. Each time those manuals fell short, I felt I was to blame. I was supposed to, somehow, make sure everyone around me met my own FICTIONAL checklist or manual. And, I was exhausted!! Although I am still in the process of deconstructing those manuals, it has been and it the most liberating aspect of this transformation process. To free myself from my own untrue and unattainable expectations as well as give my loved ones the same freedom is nothing short of AMAZING!
But, I know that I NEVER could have done it on my own. Navigating such and unfamiliar journey required that I had a guide and a support system to ensure I didn’t stop at the first uncomfortable feeling. That I didn’t give in to the temptation to fall back on what was familiar. You don’t have to do it alone either. Schedule your FREE discovery call today.