Have you ever had a really busy schedule—lots of responsibilities, lots of deadlines, lots of stress—and you felt desperate for a break? But then, for whatever reason—tasks came to a natural end; you got laid off 😱. You found yourself with exactly what you wished: an ocean of free time. You had nothing to do.
At first, it probably feels great 🙃. But after a while, maybe a couple of weeks, or a month, the freshness of pure leisure likely starts to turn stale. You feel bored, restless and depressed. You begin to yearn to “re-engage” with work; responsibility does NOT look like a burden, but desirable.
This experience is part of a “cycle” found in human nature: the “opposing” set of impulses that “alternate” between the desire to “escape” from all burdens and responsibilities, and the desire to “engage” with labor and struggle. 👉🏼 We hate to suffer; we love to suffer. We want a stress-free life, yet we want more challenge!
What Man actually needs is NOT a “tensionless” state BUT RATHER the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task. ————————————————————-
How can increasing the load help? Doesn’t it seem as if “stress” is the cause, rather than the antidote, to anxiety and depression? ⚠️ It depends on the “source” of the stress. We don’t lack tasks, but we lack “meaningful” ones. We haven’t made any goals since college because we stopped aiming for anything above paying the bills and checking off to-do lists.
There are two ways to develop a greater degree of “healthy” tension in your life. The first 1️⃣ is set goals and seek richer activities. If you have a "meaningless” job, seek a meaningful hobby. You should never stop setting new goals, and wanting to become a better version of yourself, regardless of your age. Second 2️⃣, you can seek to find a greater “why” in the tasks you’ve already taken on. The problem isn’t the load itself, but how we’re carrying it. The more we do, the more we can do; the more busy we are the more leisure we have. 👉🏼 When we retire, we expire. Why? Because our lives lack “meaning.” We don’t stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing. Keep playing. للعربية 👇🏼👇🏼