This post won’t get as many likes simply because this isn’t a glamorous, photoshopped shot.
What you’re looking at is my mediocre unfiltered, unedited selfie. The only makeup I’m wearing is red lipstick and some under eyebrow shimmer. You can clearly see my unevenly toned skin, my hooded eyelids, big cheeks, sebaceous filaments on the nose (which aren’t blackheads or freckles, as someone once thought; just big pores that won’t go away with no matter how many chemical and laser peels). Why would I post that on a platform as curated as Instagram? Perhaps because I know just how strictly curated it has become indeed, and I have no desire to partake in the shitshow known as making other women feel insecure by comparing & despairing.
Perhaps, because people have been so absorbed in social media that feeds them perfectly airbrushed, ideally positioned photographs day in day out, they forget what a regular person is supposed to look like. They don’t know who they are anymore, either. Identity fades in the futile chase of unattainable standards.
The ability to enjoy life and connect with yourself and others vanishes once we making looking picture perfect a priority.
All the accounts that “expose” so-called fake beauty of known influencers and IG models don’t really expose anything. We’ve just really lost grasp of what normal looks like whilst excessively demanding on others and your own self.
Don’t get me wrong: I don’t really associate with the whole body positive movement. Self-love and self-respect are expressed by taking care of one’s own health and body, and any extreme is bad, bad, B-A-D, whether it’s not grooming yourself at all or going under the knife to look like your Bitmoji (yep, that’s a true story).
I know gorgeous women who feel like they have to look even more perfect in order to post their selfie online. How messed up is that? Do you agree? And if you do, what keeps you coming back here?#loveyourself #nofilterneeded #bodypositive #imperfectionisbeauty #beautybeyondsize #imnotsorryformyskin #dysmorphophobia