Ironing. I simply don't Iron. It’s like this unwritten rule in our nikahnama. Similarly, he would never change diapers. In the worst of nights, where one child is sick and other is not sleeping and I'm juggling between one thing to other, he can't change a diaper.This maybe is on our nikahnama too.
Having an office dinner to go to hubby asked me to pull out this white shirt. “ I can't find it”, he said.
Wear something else, maybe it's in the washing.
It's not in the washing, I last wore it 10 days ago, please tell me it's not in washing?? OOPS!
If not in the washing, it would be in the laundry bag and not sent for ironing since the last week.
Taken over by guilt, I pulled out his white shirt and start to iron it.
While ironing his shirt I realize how things we decide we will never do, we end up doing out of love and respect. My hubby never changes diapers, but he babysits and someone is definitely changing the diapers.
That's how marriages are, unique for everyone. No one example fits all. Maybe you don't want to cook, maybe your husband never heats food. Maybe the wife is taking the financial burden, maybe the husband does laundry. Maybe you have a hubby who never moves from the sofa, but he appreciates everything you do by never complaining and that for him is a good husband.
For every couple, the do's and don'ts are different and so is the language of love. DISCOVER YOUR OWN. Once you do, you appreciate the deal you get, rather than looking for the "ideal" spouse. I would chose the weekend fight that my hubby likes to call “weekend Bonanza”over an ideal scenario.
Once ironed, I hand him the shirt, he smiled a most endearing smile, said "You know why I never ask you to iron? It is because you don't know how to. Please get me the blue shirt.” ———————————————-
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